Possibly a sensitive and triggering topic, but I’m going to ponder about cheating in a relationship.
*Disclaimer* I am not shaming those that stay with their significant others whatsoever. I do not know the context of your relationship and I have not room to judge. This is just another topic that reflects my perspective.
I’m curious to know how far your trust for your significant other, or even loved one extends? Last weekend, whenever I was with my friends, we had a few different topics of conversation. My engaged friend said that she can’t fully trust her fiancé yet.
What? Red Flag Alert
I found out that he has cheated on her not once, but twice! They’ve been together for 3[?] plus years and are planning their wedding for the summer.
Another friend of mine has been married currently for 2 years; she and her husband started dating during her 8th grade year; so, about 8 years I think? Evidently he cheated on her with another woman twice his age at his work – multiple times!
I also listen to the Jana Kramer podcast, Whine Down; she gets personal about her husband’s infidelity and intimacy issues. What’s a little odd is how he cheated on her with someone else – yet, he couldn’t be intimate with Jana. It’s a confusing thing that I won’t delve into since that’s an interesting topic altogether from his statement about it.
I mean, hearing these stories make me uneasy with the thought of marriage; but I’ve realized long before that I shouldn’t base my relationship on someone else’s. I’ve learned that lesson too – prior to even dating Stephen!
I think what gets me is how I’m such a huge advocate of love; whenever there’s a situation like this in a relationship of any kind, it just breaks my heart for those that have been betrayed.
I’d never imagine cheating, or being cheated on by someone. Since I’ve never been in that position [knock on wood!] I suppose I can’t really judge from that perspective.
From my perspective, I know that I will always state how I disapprove immensely about the concept of cheating. Never is there a valid reason to cheat on someone you love.
The “excuse” I hate the most is, “S/He never gave me the attention I needed.” Is that suppose to justify the action of cheating on your spouse!?
Gosh, I hope not.
I think that’s another brilliant moment where communication would be needed and fix that a little better than resulting to seek someone else’s affection.
It’s probably not that easy, huh? I don’t know, but I think it’s easier than cheating.
Just to consider further, those moments of “weakness” will emotionally and mentally destroy your significant other long after the moments have come clean – if those even fess up about the act. Everything about trust is completely broken.
Redemption possibly for the relationship?
Then again, I try to think about the victim in the relationship and realize that that person more than likely doesn’t want to give up on the significant other. I’m somewhat torn between the will and want to fight in order to keep the marriage/relationship.
Yet, there is also another person that won’t treat you as bad as the last person did. I don’t mean to just throw in the towel over a small obstacle; cheating is a way higher obstacle so it definitely needs to be considered more severely.
The aftermath, I suppose it does bring couples closer together [in a twisted sense], but from what I’ve seen from my friends, they have gotten closer with their significant others.
Still, there will be a hint of anxiety and triggering moments throughout life – I’d imagine. I mean, I’m still haunted by triggering moments that I’m still not over.
This topic alone just causes me to seethe with rage – unnecessary rage, actually! Haha, I guess I have a hint of sass about it within the post; but I am curious to know what others say about cheating and the mindset of both the cheater and the other person in the relationship. I’ll cut it a little shorter and leave it at that; I could probably go on a little longer about it, but who needs more information of how I feel about the subject!? Just kidding, I appreciate those that have read and followed my blog!
Have a wonderful night and rest of the week! 🙂