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Stephanie Ying Hawthorne

Stephanie Hawthorne

Stephanie Hawthorne

I adore the night time; when the rest of the world is asleep, I chat with the moon. Blogging about life and its lessons, with an occasional glimpse of things I love.

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I realize how bad that was, but I just had to do that to enter into the topic about technology. I am a day late to post, shamefully. My best friend / old roomie from Clarksville is in town so I just had to introduce her to my little hometown yesterday!

Anyways, technology is not a new subject about how advanced technology has become in this modern world, or the speculation of our future. It’s also no surprise how much we depend on technological use. It is a different topic from what I usually blog about. I started thinking about this random, but not so random topic.

What sparked this idea of a blog post are the creations of automatic toilets and sinks.

Odd, but t’s true. More so than not, I’ve gotten used to automatic toilets that flush in most restaurants or other public areas. Automatic paper towel dispensers are wonderful and I can’t complain too much about them.

Yet, I find myself a little frustrated with toilets the most. Sometimes they flush whenever I haven’t even gone to the bathroom! So, I then calculate the waste of the flush and water that was out of my control and conclude it to be wasteful. Other times, the censor won’t recognize movement to know that it’s actually time to flush! Then, the lesser moments, it works just as it’s supposed to. Minor occurrences, but they shouldn’t be that faulty with the advances of technology nowadays!

I’m probably just being silly altogether but it’s a thought. What aggravates me the most are the sink faucets where you have to push down the head of the faucetI went into a Food City where you had to do this, but the nozzle wouldn’t stay down for more than three seconds before I had to turn it back on! What’s the point in that if one of my hands has to I the nozzle to get it to properly work!? It must have been defected because it shouldn’t function like that… right?

Anyways, I do go into some other establishments that don’t have automated faucets or toilets. I have a small hint of annoyance whenever a toilet doesn’t flush automatically. Then, I’m a little ashamed of myself for being irritated by this. It’s what sparks my thought of being too dependent on technology, that I can’t simply do a simple task as flush a toilet on my own?!

This was just my food for thought for the day, but I can resume on my usual relationship centered ideas, it also entails the technology!

I really want to talk about the accessibility of cell phones.

I then speculated to the point in time before cell phones; it’s interesting to think about how people could manage their days without the distraction of a phone. Not only are cell phones a way for every minute of the day access, but it’s somewhat harmful and helpful with dating. I’m not the type to calculate how long it’s been since I’ve heard from Stephen or when he was last online – that’s a bit much and quite unhealthy.

Stephen replies to me whenever he can throughout the day. I’d speculate how those couples in the nineties and before dated. Did they wonder what their significant other was during throughout the day, rather than catching glimpses of their day on social media stories?

It’s strange to put myself in that perspective, of not having access to a phone basically 24/7. That sounds bad, yes. I actually mean how I’m used to the convenience of having someone contact me at any time. I’d rather choose to have a phone for emergencies. Without one, it heightens a certain fear and worry in case something bad did happen to me and I wouldn’t have any contact to let someone know if there was an accident.

I feel as if dating without phones or technological access, perhaps strengthened the true relationships. It required more effort in getting to know the other person, and making a larger effort to call someone on a landline and talk about one another’s day. I like having this direct accessibility to my person because if I have exciting news from somewhere not in my home, I could immediately call and tell someone about it within minutes and let the excitement bubble over even more!

I admit to being a sap for the mushy Facebook or Instagram posts; it’s really the little things like that to brighten a bad day.

Forget the usage of Snapchat and Instagram that allow us to post stories. Some even use this as evidence that a significant other is where s/he said s/he’d be. Although it would allow room for the couples to truly test out their relationship by going off wherever they please, I think it also acts a bigger trust knowing that the other person is remaining faithful.

If the relationship is in the midst of crumbling, then it just hurts the other person in the relationship if s/he catches the significant other out and having fun with friends. Sometimes technology is used as an outlet too much and I’ve caught myself checking social media or doing something on my phone while Stephen is driving, or we’re at a restaurant. I don’t want to be that person.

I work at a restaurant and I can estimate how long a couple has been together because the amount of time they both spend on their phones, and not one another. I’ve became more aware of when I’m on my phone and not paying as much attention to Stephen as I should be. So, I’m working on being on my phone even less.

It’s also one reason why I still like to write out my poems and ideas;  didn’t want to be seen as someone engrossed in her phone, when I am actually writing. Plus, there’s just something magical about using old fashion pen and paper. It’s also a visible way to see my idea work itself on the page with the amount of scribbles and pressure I put on the page.

Anyways, that’s how my train of thought has gone lately, starting off with something random and aggravating as an automatic toilet that flushes, merely a small blip within this technological world that is continuing to progress.

Hope everyone has had a happy Wednesday so far! It’s been a busy day already, but nonetheless, a great one!

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12 comments on “Technology.

  1. wchimesjim says:

    When I grew up, we had to poop in the woods 😂😂 just kidding.


  2. wchimesjim says:

    I had the luck to live in both situations. I hate the phone. I think it has desensitized people. Just like writing, you need time to live, breathe and really think about things in your life before responding and I think this instant access has taken away that buffer. Too much of anything is a bad thing, and people need space and privacy. I think it has made a split second reaction society. Also, these poor kids who are bullied in school have to safe place to retreat to with social media. So, yes, I use it and I get to meet people all over the world ( like you ) which is nice. But, if it went away tomorrow, it would be ok with me. On a side note, those sensor boxes on the toilet have a little button on the side for flushing you can push, in case your butt is too skinny to register 😂😂😂 You’re awesome, I love your posts ❤

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    1. It’s definitely a treasured experience now that society is growing toward the crutch of technology! It is a wonderful tool for networking and just finding people similar as ourselves that we’d probably have a slim chance of our paths ever crossing otherwise! I have to use the sensor button sometimes, but they are a little delayed more often than not for me, haha! Thank you so much, I appreciate you reading my posts ❤ I haven't caught up on social media posts lately, but I am happy to have stumbled across your account on Instagram and now here! 🙂


      1. wchimesjim says:

        Me too , you rock !

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  3. wchimesjim says:

    Sorry for the misspelling, its technologies fault!


  4. Hunida says:

    I, too, hate the faucets you have to hold down. So annoying! & I hate automatic toilets when they flush while I’m sitting on them, yuck!

    I’m curious to know if you think couples who have been together longer look at their phones more or less during dinner?

    My boyfriend and I never pull our phones out during dinner at a restaurant (except for pictures hehe).

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    1. I know, what’s the point of having to hold them down!? When the toilets flush while on them, I am HORRIFIED; I get a bit dramatic whenever I do have to flush a toilet because I’ll use my foot then quickly run out of the stall because you never know about the water pressure of them! Haha.

      From what I see sometimes, it’s mostly with younger couples that have been together longer. It’s awkward to walk around or deliver food and have the people on their phones and not talking to one another!

      I love having a table come in and you can instantly tell they’re on their first or beginning dates because of how much they’re having the “get to know you” conversations about family and what they like doing. They seem to be on their phones less since their focusing more on each other in a new relationship.

      I did have a couple in their 40s, [with their kids], and the man was taking a work phone call – while at the table! The wife had to place his order because he was on his phone and they were all ready to order!

      I suppose it just depends on the couple and their preference of phone usage, but I like not having the attention drawn on phones because the main focus should be on our date ❤

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      1. Hunida says:

        Oh I am the same way! I hate when the toilet water splashes up!! LOL.

        I hate that!! The main focus should def be your date… what’s there to look at on your phone while you’re on a date?! My boyfriend and I have been together 4 years next month. If he were ever on his phone while we went out to eat, I’d probably get suuuuper mad, tbh!!

        I def wouldn’t place his order for him lol.

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        1. That’s what I want to say to my customers! Haha, there are times where I’m on mine to look something up, but I become aware of it and shift my focus back to my fiancé! Awh, that’s so exciting, happy early 4 years to you both! ❤

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  5. Nice observations. I totally agree.
    I wrote something a while back you might enjoy:

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