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Stephanie Ying Hawthorne

Stephanie Hawthorne

Stephanie Hawthorne

I adore the night time; when the rest of the world is asleep, I chat with the moon.

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Where was I ?

Right, continuing from my last post – in case you missed it, why do I say that love isn’t blind?

Being blind restricts me from seeing the obvious. From physically seeing parts of life. [Well, I do not believe being blind even restricts in some cases — but that is a separate topic altogether.]

Referring back to part one, I do believe my longtime friend loves her boyfriend despite his lacking contributions. So, what’s happened with her situation, a month later? I know that story probably should be told before I give my insights.

Roomie and longtime friend have somewhat made up. [It was getting awkward in the apartment after not speaking for a while.]

There is actually improvement for longtime friend’s relationship! [Blessing in disguise, or more stressful for them?]

Forbidden boyfriend is staying with friends of longtime friend, a bit odd, but they’re a nice, recently married couple. He even has a job! Unfortunately, he has to Uber to get there since no license. He applied to work at a McDonald’s that was close to his previous friend’s house. Since she kicked him out though, that’s how he’s staying with the nice married couple, but the McDonald’s is about 30 minutes from their house. So, that’s where his money goes to pay for Ubers. The cycle never ends.

Longtime friend has been using the weekends to teach him how to drive! They’ve been practicing on main roads – a bit scary to think about.

I haven’t heard from longtime friend in a couple of days, but I assume she’s doing well, but staying busy with work and helping her boyfriend.

Maybe this moving out was good for him; he told longtime friend he wanted to contribute and do more for their relationship and it’s happening! It kinda sucks that my friends had to have this falling out for the boyfriend to realize he needs to do and be more for my friend.

Now, my question is: why should love be viewed as blind?

It’s because love has exposed me to things in life that I’ve first imagined, then experienced. Real love is encompassed in many ways. I’ve known the love of my family; it’s consisted of a stable environment, where love is visibly seen and known to outside eyes. It’s also a group of people that make up my home team.

Love opens up a part of me that I couldn’t imagine living without. Romantic love, I never expect, but always hope to find. In some aspects, it helps create a newer version of myself because it brings out different sides of me.

It reveals a higher capacity of patience, compassion, and strength within me.

It took time to experience each of theses steps, but they went hand in hand once I processed and learned from these experiences. Before love, I expressed frustration mixed with eagerness for experiences to happen right when I wanted them to. Rather than being patient for things to run its course, I sabotaged my own happiness by making the wrong things happen.

Eventually, I exerted how much compassion I had for someone that was detrimental for me. After the end of it, I realized how much strength and love I have to give to someone. Without love, I would be more closed off to a part of the world. I would be stifled of personal growth and I couldn’t imagine how my life would be if l didn’t have family or relational love.

I feel that this post is only running across the surface of why I don’t believe love is blind. I know we are all capable of giving love – but to say love is blind is crazy, Love drives the attempts to outweigh the negative and toxic characteristics of someone, but to say we are blind to love is a crazy notion.

Love awakens dormant parts of myself that I never knew to exist. It is the reason behind my dreams, motivation, and who I am to this day. So, maybe love tries its hardest to overlook negative attributes of a person, but we end up seeing the truth of the situation in time.

Gosh, I’m about to start back up; so, I think I’ll conclude this post and work on different angles within my posts to prove how capable love’s vision truly is.

Have a happy Tuesday evening! 🙂

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5 comments on “Love is[n’t] blind, part two.

  1. wchimesjim says:

    Very well written. First of all , everything about my life is driven by love. I’ve given tons more than I’ll ever receive, but that’s my life’s purpose here, so it’s all good. That being said, I have acted like long time friend too at times. It’s not being blind, but purposefully wearing blinders. When you can imagine the final product in someone, you don’t want to see the current version happening around you. And you don’t want anyone else to pay attention to that version either. Of course, it’s no way to grow a relationship. It always self corrects itself and someone feels wounded. I think things played out well , in this case. Maybe he will learn responsibility, and everyone will grow a little. This was very Interesting, thanks for sharing it !

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    1. Thank you again! and I like the thought of purposely wearing blinders. It’s just beyond my thoughts of someone in such a draining relationship like this one! But I suppose we all do our shares of draining relationships and this happens to be hers. Hopefully this situation does turn out for the better or a major intervention will be necessary for the future! I appreciate your comment! 🙂


  2. Hunida says:

    Aww, yay! Good to hear he’s gotten a job. 🙂 Long time friend seems like an amazing girlfriend to him!

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    1. I know! Perhaps this was good for their relationship after all. Hopefully he doesn’t screw it up!

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